Note: the formula for teasing is to lightly poke fun at something she’s doing, in a very warm way. They’ve heard it all before (as have most women, attractive or not). The Playette sees this type of approach as predictable and quickly classifiable – in other words, unattractive simply because it’s more of the same.

To build momentum and get her really interested in you, you must appear unpredictable, and also, uninterested in her sexually. The key here is a concept we teach at Di Carlo Inc., called “Intrigue.” All Intrigue means is that you have an opinion or observation about a woman that will excite her emotions negatively or positively.


The challenge with this type of woman is quickly separating yourself from her many other orbiting male friends, who are in the No Sex Zone. Right is fantastical, which is why she has a hard time picking one guy to stay with, or even sleep with.

But remember, what a woman fantasizes about, and what she responds to in real time, flesh and blood, are two very different things.

But in the Playette’s case, you must play the classic archetype of the dominant, romantic ladies man who saves her from her endless string of failed dating experiments.

She wants a man who will arouse her, seduce her, take her, tame her, and leave her wanting more.

For example, let’s say she is wearing a dress almost identical to what another girl is wearing.

Imply that you notice something that will probably piss her off, but don’t tell her what it is. You’re gonna be pissed if I tell you what I just saw…but don’t worry, you are the winner.” Another example: let’s say you notice that she is skinny but is drinking beer and you don’t know how she could keep that figure drinking Corona all night. You must know something these other girls don’t.” It doesn’t have to be fancy- just get her to: a) focus on you because you are talking about her, and b) get her riled up by not telling whether your opinion/observation is flattering or otherwise.This is why it is so tempting and exciting to pursue a Playette, and also why it is so challenging.The wall is hard to scale because the treasure is so enticing – men’s biggest downfall with the Playette is their own impatience and anxiety.As a Tester, she “keeps it moving” so to speak, so it may be hard to develop enough rapport to the point where she feels safe letting go of her precious sexual side.In addition, she’ll often put up soft boundaries, or tests, in order to slow down the progress of a sexual relationship, so that she can maintain her power.She’ll either ignore you completely, or let you talk with a blank expression, until you are blue in the face and run out of things to say. The most effective way to get the Playette interested in you is to tease her. Be playful, don’t take her too seriously, and tease a lot.

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